So I was studying (for real) and listening to a speaker lecture about what we want. She touched on relationships. She said we often focus on what we want from a mate but rarely who we need to be to deserve that kind of person. I’d already had that knowledge but what I hadn’t done is write it out. First I wrote what I wanted/needed from a partner. Then I went back and highlighted in yellow the traits i have, in green what I need to work on, and yellow/green what I’m in the middle on. Its such a differnce having a visual. I”ll hang it in my room as a reminder. I’m feeling very empowered now.